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April 21, 2012

Roles Played By The Father of the Bride, The Best Man and the Maid of Honor At A Wedding


The key people in the wedding party like the father of the bride, the best man or the maid of honor have a chance to introduce themselves, the bride, the groom and the relationship that they have with each of them. They do this by giving wedding speeches during the reception.

Roles Played by Individuals in a WeddingThe father of the bride has many duties to perform at a wedding. He must accompany his daughter down the aisle during the ceremony. If she is nervous, shaking or just plain scared, he must talk to her before they walk into the room where the wedding will be held. He must be able to calm her down, reassure her and make her eager to take her vows. Well, that’s, though very personal, one of the two father of the bride speeches he has to make during the evening. The second speech (which is of course the formal wedding speech from the father of the bride) that he makes will be during the wedding reception. That speech is not as personal because it does not need to be directed completely toward his girl. In that wedding speech, he can be funny, emotional or serious. He and the mother of the bride are usually the hosts of the wedding. In his speech, he must make everyone feel welcome and thank them for coming. The father of the bride might accompany the Mother of the bride and the bride into the ceremony. In this case, his first speech might need to keep both these ladies serene, content and enthusiastic.

The best man is the gentleman closest to the groom. Their relationship is one of blood or friendship. In the best man speeches, these significant males may tell everyone what the groom is like. If the two of them have been life-long friends, this is a good chance to tell anecdotes about adventures they have shared. Wedding speeches may get long, boring or out of control. The best man should keep in mind that he is introducing the groom to many guests who may not know the two of them very well. If he is humorous, witty and brief, his speech will be remembered fondly. The best man is charged with keeping the groom company throughout the wedding day. He must give the ring to the person officiating the ceremony. Once in a while, he even does pranks on the groom, such as painting messages on the soles of the groom’s shoes. As the groom kneels at the altar, these jokes are displayed to all. The best man gauges the mood of the groom and helps keep everything going smoothly.

The maid of honor is a lady who knows the bride better than anyone else. Sometimes, this role is bestowed upon the sister of the bride. Maid of honor speeches may bring people to tears. This is not to stereotype women as emotional beings, but it can be easier for females to speak of their feelings. The maid of honor must serve the bride during the wedding and care for her needs. She holds the bride’s flowers during the vows. The maid of honor ‘smooths’ the bride’s gown at the altar. Once in a while, the bride and groom get so distracted by their guests, clinking glasses, kissing each other, and any number of other tasks, that they do not get a chance to eat. The maid of honor should keep an eye on the newlyweds and see that they get food and drink.

If the bride and groom are beloved by many, there may be several more wedding speeches given in their honor. Each speech may be followed by a toast to the newly married pair. Weddings bring out the people who care about this couple. The guests might vie for a moment in the spotlight.

Some weddings have photographers and videographers. These people may set up a camera in an area where guests are invited to make wedding speeches on tape. The bride and groom are given the recordings later as a keepsake of their big event. After the festivities are finished, the photographs and videos are the mementos that last the longest.

The wedding party may include one or more groomsmen and bridesmaids. Their role is to stand beside the bride and groom as they take their vows. They witness the promises and lend their support. They symbolically represent those who will help the marriage through good times and bad. If they are comfortable with public speaking, they may volunteer to make wedding speeches themselves, especially if they are siblings of the bride or groom.

A wedding is a milestone in a person’s life. The ceremony may be religious or secular. The wedding venue may be formal and elegant or simple and casual. No matter what the details may be, the key element in such a special day is the bond that is being celebrated. Each wedding speech made that day must help the couple rejoice about the public announcement of their love and commitment.

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