How Good or Bad was Your Wedding Speech ?
Getting prepared and ultimately presenting a wedding speech is quite an experience. You like it or you don’t like it, if you agree to be a best man or maid of honor you know you have to deliver a wedding speech at the wedding ceremony. The groom, the father of the bride and sometimes the bride don’t even have that luxury. A groom is a groom by default and so are the other two. They have to give their respective wedding speeches. No escaping from that.
But, not necessarily, things should be as bad as you expect it to be if you are afraid of public speaking. After all it’s a great honor to be selected as a best man or maid of honor. And if you follow a few simple guidelines you too can deliver a wedding speech that would be remembered for long. That’s for those who are not that comfortable while speaking in front of a crowed. But many of you out there are really good speakers and can handle the job with confidence. But in spite of being a good speaker, you should plan your speech before hand and actually put your thoughts on paper. You can thus make your wedding speech even better than your expectations.
This Wedding Speech Blog is a place where we would share tips, ideas and experiences related to wedding speeches. Be it a best man speech, a groom speech, father of the bride speech or maid of honor speech, if you have to say, you are welcome to post your thoughts here. so, go ahead and share with us your wedding speech experience.
The Order of Wedding Speeches
I will try to keep this post short and to the point. People often wonder what the right order of wedding speeches is. And sometimes they even if any such order actually exist. Well, there is indeed a tradition of wedding speech that is followed by majority of the families living in a particular country or region. Such traditions or customs have been developed wedding ceremonial rituals practiced by the people through the ages. And as I said it depends from region to region rather than family to family. Two families living in Florida would probably follow similar wedding customs (unless they or their ancestors are from different countries) but it would be different from an Irish family living in Ireland.
Nevertheless, let us adhere to the most common tradition which is practiced by most of the families. If we assume that there are four people (the groom, the father of the bride the best man and the maid of honor) who are going to deliver their respective wedding speeches, the most orthodox wedding speech order could be something like the following.
- The father of the bride gives his father of the bride speech. He is the one to speak first.
- The groom then delivers his groom speech which is formal in nature.
- The best man speech is probably the most entertaining of them all and is delivered the best man.
- The maid of honor speech is the last in the serious and is quite similar to best man speeches in nature.
However, apart from the above mention speeches there could be a few more people who may like to speak or are expected to speak in absence of one or more persons mentioned. They could be the father or mother of the groom, mother of the bride or even the bride. Sometimes somebody from the family or friends could also offer to deliver their speech. You must discuss well in advance how to accommodate them and make the final order of wedding speech accordingly.
The Fundamentals of Wedding Speeches
The four of the most common wedding speeches that are common to almost all weddings are the father of the bride speech, the groom’s speech, the maid of honor speech and the best man’s speech. Though you don’t always get to hear to all of those four wedding speeches at every wedding reception party you attend.
Firstly, the toastmaster, if there is any, should urge the father of the bride to propose a toast wishing health and happiness to the newlyweds. If you are the father of the bride you should attempt to make your father of the bride speech sincere and if you get a bit sentimental during your speech don’t worry about it …. It’s quite natural with father of the bride speeches. But, you know, like all other wedding speeches, you could do a lot of good to your speech if you can add a bit of humor to it. As the father of the bride you will also have to welcome the groom’s parents, all the friends and family members and the guests present at the reception.
The groom speech is next where the groom usually replies with a speech where he thanks his own parents for what they have done all these years to make him what he is. He will also thank the parents of the bride to accept him as one of their family members. Groom speeches should also portrait the love and responsibility of the groom towards his bride. It is also customary that the groom also says a few words of thanks to the gift-bearers, the bridesmaids and the best man.
Traditionally, the groom speech is followed by the best man speech. The best man generally gives a light-hearted, humorous speech. Best Man Speeches are often centered on the groom. The best best man speeches have jokes, quotes, one-liners as well as anecdotes included in them and all of them together, if delivered in a lively manner, make it absolutely entertaining.
Finally, maid of honor speeches or the wedding toasts from the bridesmaids are actually quite similar to the best man speech. The only difference being the majority of the speech is dedicated to the bride instead of the groom. The maid of honors are normally the bride’s sisters or friends and being somebody close to the bride’s heart, their version of wedding speeches would mean some funny insider secrets about the bride.
Apparently, delivering a speech at a wedding reception would necessarily mean that you should get prepared for it well in advance. Here are some essential tips that anybody having to give a wedding speech can follow -
- Begin early. You should start your preparation at least 2 weeks prior to the wedding day
- Do some research work by browsing through various wedding speech resources on the internet.
- Note down the points you like noteworthy.
- Make an outline of the speech.
- Bear in mind that your speech shouldn’t be longer than 5 minutes.
- Depending on the nature of your wedding speech remember to include everybody you need to thank.
- Sort the wedding jokes, quotes one-liners you intend to include in your speech
- Anecdotes make wedding speeches interesting. Remember those you would like to use.
- Avoid silly remarks, bad jokes. And alcohol before the speech. Aunt Lily is not going to like them.
- Be honest and sincere. Better be the person you are.
- Practice. Practice builds familiarity. And familiarity gives rise to confidence.
Well, that’s it for today as far as getting ready for your wedding speech is concerned. If you think it’s not easy let me tell you that you have done a lot harder jobs than giving a wedding speech. Write up your speech practice and get used to it’s done. And if you think you require it, you can get some excellent wedding speech materials and guidance by following one of the links below -
